By Michael Cummins, Editor, August 14, 2025

Imagine a world where, in a single decade, half the laughter shared between friends vanishes. Imagine a childhood where time spent outdoors is cut by a third and the developmental benefits of reading are diminished by two-thirds. This is not a dystopian fantasy. According to social psychologist Jonathan Haidt, in a “Prof G Podcast with Scott Galloway published on August 14, 2025, it is the stark reality for a generation that has been systematically disconnected from the real world and shackled to the virtual. “We have overprotected our children in the real world,” Haidt argues, “and underprotected them in the virtual world.”

This profound dislocation is the epicenter of a “perfect storm” disproportionately harming boys and young men—a crisis fueled by predatory technology, economic precarity, and the collapse of institutions that once guided them into manhood. It is a crisis, as a growing chorus of thinkers like Haidt, Brookings scholar Richard Reeves, and professor Scott Galloway have illuminated, born not from a single cause, but from a collective, intergenerational failure. It is a betrayal of the implicit promise that each generation will leave the world better for the next, a promise broken by a society that has become, in Galloway’s stark assessment, “a generation of takers, not givers.”

The Digital Dislocation: A Generation Adrift Online

The most abrupt change to the landscape of youth has been technological. Haidt identifies the years between 2010 and 2015 as the “pivot point” when a “play-based childhood” was supplanted by a “phone-based childhood.” This was not a simple evolution from the television sets of the past. The smartphone is a uniquely invasive tool—a supercomputer delivering constant, algorithmically curated interruptions. It extracts data on its user’s deepest desires while creating a feedback loop of social comparison and judgment, resulting in a documented catastrophe for mental health. It is no coincidence that between 2010 and 2021, the suicide rate for American boys aged 10-14 nearly tripled, according to CDC data highlighted by Haidt.

The Lure of the Manosphere

This digital vacuum has been eagerly filled by what Scott Galloway calls the “great white sharks” of the tech industry. The most insidious outcome of their engagement-at-all-costs model is the weaponization of social validation into a system of industrialized shame. “Imagine growing up in a minefield,” Haidt suggests. “You would walk really carefully.” This pervasive fear suppresses healthy risk-taking, a crucial component of adolescent development, particularly for boys who learn competence through trial, error, and recovery.

This isolation is especially damaging for boys who, as scholar Warren Farrell argues, already suffer from a crisis of “dad-deprivation” and a lack of positive male mentorship. “A boy’s search for a father,” Farrell writes in The Boy Crisis, “is a search for a purpose-driven life.” Into this void step not fathers or coaches, but the algorithmic sirens of the “manosphere.” These figures thrive because they offer a counterfeit version of the very thing Farrell identifies as missing: a strong, authoritative male voice providing direction, however misguided. Figures like Andrew Tate have built empires by offering lonely or insecure young men a seductive, off-the-shelf identity, often paired with dubious get-rich-quick schemes that prey directly on their economic anxieties. The algorithms on platforms like TikTok and YouTube are ruthlessly efficient, creating a pipeline that can push a boy from mainstream gaming content to nihilistic or misogynistic ideologies in a matter of weeks. This is not a moral failing of young men; it is the predictable result of a human need for guidance meeting a machine optimized for radicalizing engagement.

The Economic Squeeze: A Broken Promise of Prosperity

This digital betrayal is compounded by an economic one, as the foundational promises of prosperity have been broken for an entire generation. The traditional path to stability—education, career, family, homeownership—has become fractured. As Galloway argues, older generations have effectively “figured out that the downside of democracy is that old people… can continue to vote themselves more money,” leaving the young to face a brutal housing market and stagnant wages. He describes it as a conscious “pulling up of the ladder,” where asset inflation benefits the old at the direct expense of the young.

From Precarious Work to Deaths of Despair

This economic anxiety shatters the “get rich slowly” ethos and replaces it with a desperate search for a shortcut. And in 2018, the state effectively handed this desperate generation a loaded gun in the form of frictionless, legalized sports betting. The Supreme Court decision placed, as Reeves describes it, a “casino in everyone’s pocket,” making gambling dangerously accessible to a demographic of young men who are biologically more prone to risk-taking and socially more isolated than ever. The statistics are damning: young men are the fastest-growing group of problem gamblers, and in states that legalize online betting, bankruptcy filings often spike.

The consequences are existential. This trend is the leading edge of the “deaths of despair” phenomenon identified by economists Anne Case and Angus Deaton, who documented rising mortality among men without college degrees from suicide, overdose, and alcohol-related illness. Their research concluded these deaths were “less about the sting of poverty and more about the pain of a life without meaning.” When a young man, steeped in economic anxiety and disconnected from real-world support, takes a huge financial risk and fails, the shame can be unbearable. Haidt delivers a chillingly direct warning of the foreseeable consequences: “you’re gonna have dead young men.”

The Social Vacuum: An Abandonment of Guidance and Guardrails

Underpinning both the technological and economic crises is a deeper social one: the systematic dismantling of the institutions, norms, and rituals that once guided boys into healthy manhood. Society has become deinstitutionalized, removing the “guardrails” that once channeled youthful energy.

The Crisis in the Classroom

This is acutely visible in education. The modern classroom, with its emphasis on quiet compliance and verbal-emotive skills, is often a poor fit for the learning styles more common in boys. As author Christina Hoff Sommers has argued for years, “For more than a decade, our schools have been enforcing a zero-tolerance policy for any behavior that suggests boyishness.” The result is a widening gender gap at every level. Women now earn nearly 60% of all bachelor’s degrees in the U.S. Boys are more likely to be diagnosed with a learning disability, more likely to face disciplinary action, and have largely abandoned reading for pleasure. We are, in effect, pathologizing boyhood and then wondering why boys are checking out of school.

The Search for Structure

This deinstitutionalization extends beyond the schoolhouse. The decline of institutions like the Boy Scouts, whose membership has plummeted in recent decades, local sports leagues, and church groups has removed arenas for mentorship and character formation. From an anthropological perspective, this is a catastrophic failure. “Wherever you have initiation rights,” Haidt notes, “they’re always harsher, stricter, tougher for boys because it’s a much bigger jump to turn a boy into a man.” This journey requires structure, discipline, and challenge. Yet modern society, in its quest for safety, has stripped away opportunities for healthy risk, leaving boys to “just vegetate.”

Into this vacuum has rushed a toxic cultural narrative that pits the sexes against each other. But the hunger for meaning has not disappeared. Reeves’s powerful anecdote of visiting a Latin Mass in Denver on a Sunday night and finding it “full of young men, most of them on their own,” speaks volumes. They are not seeking chaos; they are desperately searching for “structure and discipline and purpose and institutions that will help them become men.” They are looking for the very things society has stopped providing.

Forging a New Path: A Framework for Renewal

Recognizing this betrayal is the first step. The next is to act. This requires moving past the gender wars and embracing a bold, pro-social agenda to rebuild the structures that turn boys into thriving men.

1. Rebuild the Guardrails: Institutional and Economic Solutions The most immediate need is to create viable, non-collegiate pathways to success and dignity. We must champion a massive expansion of vocational and technical education, celebrating the mastery of a trade as equal in status to a four-year degree. As Mike Rowe, a vocal advocate for skilled labor, has stated, “We are lending money we don’t have to kids who can’t pay it back to train them for jobs that no longer exist. That’s nuts.” Imagine a modern Civilian Conservation Corps, where young men from all backgrounds work side-by-side to rebuild crumbling infrastructure or restore national parks—learning a trade while forging bonds of shared purpose and earning a tangible stake in the country they are helping to build.

2. Create Modern Rites of Passage: Community and Mentorship Communities must step into the void left by failing institutions. This means a national push to fund and expand mentorship programs. Research from MENTOR National shows that at-risk youth with a mentor are 55% more likely to enroll in college and 130% more likely to hold leadership positions. It means local leaders creating their own modern “rites of passage”—challenging, team-based programs that teach resilience, problem-solving, and civic responsibility through tangible projects. As Reeves bluntly puts it, “pain produces growth,” and we must reintroduce healthy, structured struggle back into the lives of boys.

3. A Pro-Social Vision: Redefining Honorable Masculinity The most crucial task is cultural. We must stop telling boys that their innate nature is toxic and instead offer them a noble vision of what it can become. We must define honorable manhood not as domination or material wealth, but as competence, responsibility, and protectiveness. This means redefining competence not just as physical strength, but as technical skill, emotional regulation, and intellectual curiosity. It means redefining protectiveness not just against physical threats, but against the digital and psychological dangers that poison our discourse and harm the vulnerable. It is a masculinity defined by what it builds and who it cares for—the courage to be a provider for one’s family, a pillar of one’s community, and a steward of a just society.

Conclusion: Repairing the Intergenerational Compact

We have stranded a generation of boys in a digital “Guyland,” a perilous limbo between a childhood they were forced to abandon and an adulthood they see no clear path to reaching. We have told them their natural instincts are a problem while simultaneously exposing them to the most predatory, high-risk temptations ever devised. This is more than a crisis; it is a profound societal malpractice.

The choice we face is stark. We can continue our slide into a zero-sum society of horizontal, gendered conflict, or we can recognize this crisis for what it is: a vertical, intergenerational failure that harms everyone. We must have the courage to declare that the well-being of our sons is not in opposition to the well-being of our daughters. As Richard Reeves has said, the goal is to “get to a world which is better for both men and women.” This is not a zero-sum game; it is a positive-sum imperative.

This requires a new intergenerational compact, one rooted in action, not grievance. It demands we stop pathologizing boyhood and start building the institutions that mold it. It requires that we offer our young men not frictionless temptation, but meaningful struggle. It insists that we provide them not with algorithmic influencers, but with real-world mentors who can show them the path to an honorable life.

The hour is late, and the damage is deep. But in the quiet hunger of young men for purpose, in the fierce love of parents for their children, and in the courage of thinkers willing to speak uncomfortable truths, lies the hope that we can yet forge a new path. The work is not to turn back the clock, but to build a better future—one where we finally keep our promise to the next generation.

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